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I’ll keep him.

I’ve been slow to post this week because I’ve been writing, writing, writing. Hopefully, I’ll finish what I’m working on soon!

So, I’ve mentioned MH (the husband) and I wanted to post this picture from our trip to Maine.

I really love it.  It’s so him.

Okay, I know it’s his back, but it’s still a pretty nice view. 😉  He was looking at the rocks.  Yes, rocks and because of said rocks, he was completely ignoring many of the other things in the vicinity.  The gorgeous beach house that was behind him, the lighthouse that was in the distance, were not as important as the massive formations at the water’s edge. He’s into geology, as a hobby–the history of the planet fascinates him.  If there was a volcano nearby, he’d have been in heaven.

Now me, other than watching MH, I was looking at a house that was so beautiful it took my breath away.  It was the kind of classic, weathered, waterfront home you would expect to find in New England. And while I thought about how much I would like it for my very own (not happening) I was really thinking about my stories.  Could I set something here?  My imagination went crazy.

When we left Ocean Point, we both went on about how glad we were that we’d driven out to see what it was all about, but we were glad for very different reasons and face it, not having common ground could definitely kill a mood. Still, I enjoyed watching him examine the rock formations and he wondered what kind of mayhem my writer’s mind was dreaming up.  We knew, going in, we weren’t going to see the place the same way. And that made it more fun.

The truth is, we’re very different, MH and I, which is what keeps things interesting. I wrote an earlier post about how little things are what romance is all about and our experience in Maine kind of brings that home.  We can be different and appreciate those differences, but still be together, even after all this time.  When I build a relationship in a book, that’s what I go for…longevity.  I want readers to see my characters fifty years into the future and see them together.

So, comment.  In your opinion, what keeps a relationship interesting?  Do you still have someone who rolls your socks after lots of years?  Do you think about one who got away? What gives a relationship longevity?

What makes you want to keep him?

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    13 Responses to I’ll keep him.

    1. Respect is important. Even if we don’t agree on something, we’re open to each other’s viewpoint (or at least tolerant!). I’m very blessed to have married my best friend who, by the way, said I’m his, too. 🙂

      Thanks for the lovely post with all those beautiful pictures. What a house!

    2. Alyson Peterson says:

      My hubby likes to make me laugh. He is a tough cookie who works hard and has a thing for football. We are total opposites as he is very masculine (hello, the man has pecks to die for!) and thinks pain is what keeps a dude alive, while I am very feminine (I am a total woos, nuf said). What makes us work is that he celebrates womanhood and loves that I am into shopping, books and art. He would never change me or try to alter what makes me different from him and I love the way he is (there is something about a big tough dude that just turns me on!!!).

      Opposites can work when each party is there to support each other without the intent of changing them (although I do have to say that I now know how to shoot guns because of him and he will go shopping with me and actually enjoy it. Funny how it all worked out). My hubby is a KEEPER!

    3. abby says:

      i’m still looking for the one who makes my socks roll…

      • Jeannie says:

        And you will find him, as long as you are always open to the possibility of finding love. I believe this with all my heart. It may be tomorrow; it may be in a year. Just know he’s looking for you, too.

    4. This is very beautiful. Hallmark has an open desk for you!
      There are so many reasons I “keep” her, and I hope, just as many as to why she keeps me. Our lives work alongside each other, complimenting, augmenting and at times, opposite of the other. Laughter is huge for us, as are times of quiet. Having the girls around is always a bonus.

      But mostly is comes down to this: Each day I choose, as does she, that we stay together for this day, thankful for all those that have passed, looking forward to those that have yet to arrive, but completely thankful for the one we have now.

    5. Communication and laughter work in my marriage. Sometimes there’s not much of either and that’s when we work harder. 🙂 I envy you the writing time!

    6. Blanca says:

      My “MH” doesn’t let me take myself too seriously. He reminds me that every day is a blessing, and like Dean above, that he is thankful for the days behind and looking forward to days to come.

      He also makes me laugh. It doesn’t matter what kind of day I’ve had or how I’m in a terrible mood at that moment; he can always think of a way to make me smile. Priceless.

    7. The first thing that drew me to my husband was his sense of humor. Thirty-three years later, he still makes me laugh. And the best part is, we raised two kids who are the same way.

    8. Patty Blount says:

      I love this, Jeannie. I mean, I really LOVE it. I’ve read it twice now and it makes me misty-eyed. And laughed at the rolls my socks line….

      I agree, longevity makes for a great romance – real or fictional. I think respect is a critical ingredient. I know when my husband and I fight, it’s nearly always because the respect got lost.

    9. Jeannie says:

      Can I say how touching it’s been to see these comments? All the reasons–appreciating differences, respect, sense of humor, friendship, communication–are at the root of our romances and help them last.

      When the ingredients are there, year fifty can be as magical as year one. Thank you all for commenting. I love it.

    10. Lovely post, Jeannie. Glad we became mutual followers. I look forward to more of your posts.

    11. Donna Coe-Velleman says:

      Beautiful post Jeannie. Like others have said respect and humor are key.

    12. Tuere Morton says:

      LOVED the post!! In my humble opinion, genuine mutual respect is one of the essential ingredients for a long-lasting relationship. Unwavering consistency in that regard will give way to so many other sub-ingredients 😉

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