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Little Things

Next month, I’ll be celebrating my 23rd wedding anniversary and the week before my wedding anniversary is the anniversary of my husband’s and my first date.

That was 32 years ago.

Yup.  That’s a long time.  We met in high school and had a bit of a rough patch in college, but since we ended up together, the time apart really doesn’t count.  I know it’s corny, but I don’t look back and wonder about missed opportunities because when it comes down to it, I married the right guy.

He’s not big on grand gestures, so I don’t get sweeping romance, but what he tends to get right are the little things.  Let me give you an example.

I have wide feet, so I have to order cute shoes online.  My favorite online store offers free shipping and delivery is usually super fast.  Once, I placed an order at 10:00 on Sunday night and the shoes arrived on Monday morning.  In fact, weekend orders with free Monday delivery were the rule, not the exception.

Well, until this weekend–right before the Romance Writers of America National Conference. (Where shoes rule!) What happened?  My beloved online store decided NOT to ship this weekend.  There was no guarantee I’d have my shoes in time to leave for the conference.

Now, I’m no shoe diva.  But I swear, I flipped a little. I used to joke about cutting off a toe on each foot to fit into cute shoes, but it seriously crossed my mind (only for a split second–really) when I realized I might be stuck.  And then my husband came to my rescue.

“Don’t worry,” he said.  “If I have to, I’ll bring you the shoes.”

What?

I live about an hour away from the conference site, and my husband offered to drive three pairs of shoes to me because it would calm me down and make me happy.  Awesome, yes? That’s what I mean by little things.

I don’t have lots of expensive jewelry, and I don’t get whisked away to exotic locales every year, but I have this wonderful man who does what he can to make me happy.

And that’s how I see romance–as a collection of little things, small gestures, and simple kindnesses that make someone happy and that’s what I give to my characters to work with.

Hey, it’s always been said you should write what you know.

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    29 Responses to Little Things

    1. Sending over applause to your hubby. I am in a similar situation — furs and jewels aren’t dripping from low lying tree branches, but my hubby’s got my back. Totally. He once dropped me off at the airport for an international flight. I realized (don’t ask) I had never unearthed my passport or brought it with me. He had to come back, drove me first home, where no passport was found. Then drove me to the office (in Manhattan hi-rise on the weekend), naturally no passport either. Finally to my childhood home in NJ — where the passport was found. AND got me back to airport in time for flight. All without complaining. A saint, I tell ya!

      • Jeannie says:

        Yup. Hubby would totally do the same thing. And while I might get teased a little bit about it at a later date, he’d do whatever he had to do without a complaint.

    2. The little things really are the big things in a marriage.

    3. I agree 200%! It is the little things. I think one of my favorite authors put it best. Sarah Mayberry said once in an article that “the most important quality in a Hero is kindness.”

      It’s true, once that H wins the reader’s heart, you root for him no matter how many stupid things he does. 🙂

    4. Tuere Morton says:

      The happiest part about visiting your site is…I get to VISIT your site!! You don’t know how frustrating it was for me not to get here sooner. You’ve got a great man right there! You made me think about all of the little things my hubby does for me and it’s amazing how our men have re-defined “Mr. Perfect” for us. 🙂

    5. abby says:

      all together now, awwwwww.

      and now i have yet another example of a happy, healthy, role modelish relationship to follow. i can’t wait to meet the guy who does the little things for me. 🙂

      also, welcome back to the blogesphere!

    6. Hey honey! I had to come over and take a peek…I LOVE the new blog! It’s absolutely gorgeousness. And how sweet that your hubs was willing to bring you shoes? It is the little things like that that make marriage so precious.

    7. Kelly B says:

      I think in the first bloom of a romance it is all about the passion. You are on a total hormonal free fall and it feels heavenly.

      Of course you have to land sometime and when you do I hope every women can find the man that makes the day to day things in life enjoyable. Turn the mundane into fun. I have been married for twenty years and I am lucky that I married my best friend. But that is the key, we are friends. Yes I heart him, but I also just enjoy spending time with him. I would rather be quiet with him than at a party with anyone else.

    8. Patty Blount says:

      See, these are the kinds of things that make marriage successful. I don’t get flowers or even Hallmark cards. But I get things I didn’t know I needed.

      Years back, I was involved in a work-wide fundraiser for a cancer charity. My coworkers and I decided to hold a garage sale and donate all the $ to the charity.

      A few days before, my husband drove for miles hanging neon colored signs all over the neighborhood to publicize the sale.

      It was a huge success. We raised over a thousand $ for the charity.

    9. Loved this post, Jeannie. Your hubbie’s a true romantic.

    10. Awww. Your hubby definitely gets a gold star for this. Very, very sweet.

      My hubby got me a new chair for my 40th b’day. Yup, a chair. He knew my old one was giving me backaches, and thought if I’m going to spend so much time at my desk writing, I should have a good chair to do it in. Some people don’t think that’s a very romantic or special gesture. It was exactly what I needed and wanted, and also showed his support of my burgeoning career. Those are the gestures that mean the most. I don’t usually get cards on every b’day, and no sweeping romance… but I got my chair, and the man who thought to get it for me. 🙂

    11. P.S. Your website is gorgeous and I’m very happy for you that it’s finally up and running. Mazel Tov!!! 🙂

    12. You were right—we really are married to the same guy. Aren’t we lucky?!?!? 🙂 Love the blog, love the post, and could not agree with the sentiment more. I so look forward to reading one your pubbed books one day!!!!!!

    13. Julie Brannagh says:

      Jeannie, I am so glad to see your new website! It’s wonderful. I really enjoyed reading your posts, and I know it will be hugely successful!

      My husband is one of those “little things” guys, too. He started reading romance novels so he could advise me on how they were written. He does stuff like stop at the store on his way home if I’ve forgotten something, or bring me a cookie from the bakery because he knows I love them.

      I think I’ll keep him.

    14. I love the little things. 🙂

    15. Jeannie says:

      Kelly, Patty, Jen, Julie and Dawn ~ Your responses to me tell me why we all write romance, because we all understand what’s important. <3

      Marilyn~I'm lucky to have him!

      MTM~ Perhaps there's a distant relationship between our guys. Hey, you never know. 🙂

    16. Monica B.W. says:

      Hey there!
      It’s the first time I see this new site you have!
      Congrats! I’m loving it! 😀
      And your hubby is so sweet!

    17. Donna Coe-Velleman says:

      Be still my little pitter – pattering heart. That’s so sweet. Like they say the best things in life aren’t things.

      Love the new site Jeannie. Good luck!

    18. Jeannie,

      What a heartfelt account of your relationship with your husband. That you appreciate the little things (that add up to a lot) makes all the difference. Beautiful. Thanks for sharing.

      By the way, I love your website. Gorgeous layout!!

    19. Debora Dale says:

      That is the sweetest thing. When a man recognizes a woman’s concerns, validates them then comes up with a solution, well, that IS romance. Lucky lady! 🙂

      My hubby would have said something like, “I’d lend you a pair of my shoes but they’d been to small for you.” (He’s a men’s size 12. lol)

    20. 7thWoman says:

      Okay now that’s love!!! And nothing even similiar to what my husband would do. You win!

    21. Jeannie says:

      I’d like to thank everyone for the comments. Thankfully, the shoes arrived on time, saving my guy an extra trip. He was happy to hear I wore every pair I brought with me, except one.

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